“Emotional”? It is Your Gift

Hey there my beautiful people! 😀
I shared the following message with my people on my other networks..
and the rate and depth of responses i got was dumbfounding.
I’ll share a few at the end so you know what i am really blessed with receiving every single day with people from around the globe.
“People are thirsty..thirsty to build a
r e a l
connection with someone, today more than ever.”

I have surrounded myself with the GREATEST most beautiful people ever, by doing just that..

And they gave me sides of them that are not on display among others kn their life, especially when i started over in the game of people .. 2 years ago after a rough experience:)
People like honesty, value transparency and open books. Dont you? 
If you do… then maybe they too, they just have a hard time expressing it:) we’re all different.
When you express yourself, in whichever way(s),  it makes you transparent hence, well-understood by the other,
So, youre allowing people to connect. But then , can anyone live, really live their life, without a human connection(s) ?
💚✨🌈

My favourite response from My people to the above-shared:

From D. in the UK:

This is just 👌 so well said […]. I wish more people valued transparency as opposed to seeing it as a weakness. [Some] cultures pride themselves on being stoic and not showing emotions, which I appreciate is appropriate at times but it’s a very restrictive way of living.

Having said that, I feel that having my emotions out in the open does leave me more vulnerable but now more than ever, I find that people appreciate this more than hiding behind a mask. 

Thank you for the reminder and […]
Truly Yours,
All my love
Joy
Aug.16, 2017 at 6.44am
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The Box..in You

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Life sometimes puts us with a partner,
or a friend,
or a family  – by blood or not it doesnt matter ..
and it’s a good,
we have a roof over our heads, all we need, we got to do so many things … in life
but sometimes,
more often than not, and i see this in my friends, old and new .. in my colleagues and my teammates ..
I see how we entangle ourselves sometimes in relations (long-distance or not, all the same) and routines, 
that just leave us with a low estimation of ourselves,less time for YOU,
if we could PAUSE life for a minute, or less, we would see it, but 
as long as life goes on no matter what, how, when, or where, …
we are in this cycle, in our comfort zone,
emotions and affection play a role in keeping us close to the familiar ,
but then,
have you thought,
am i really happy? 
am i doing all i want to do?
am i giving my dreams a shot or did i just settle for all th wrong reasons ..?
sometimes settling is not permanent, eventhough it may seem so.. 
if you’ve invested already 2-3 years or more in a relationship
or if you feel you’re too deep into it to come out or go back .. [ever felt this, truly?]
sometimes, which are most time,
when you Still have this room to maneuver things ,
you gotta STEP BACK,
allow yourself to, my people, please.
Look, use the time on hand to really GET OUT there, out of that comfort zone, and
chase
chase what you had in mind and at heart all along.
It is part of you that you just shut off for love, or compromise, or sacrifice, or for selflessness and the kind person you are and dedication that you have ..
Because..
if we never try, we will never really know.
In my eyes, no matter how much you love someone, from your mom and family to your soulmate or partner,
YOU are still on your priority list, and you are number 1 on that list.
All you do to you .. reflects on your relation with the other, any other
Don’t contain yourself in a box,
and boxes.. they are tricky, some are invisible,
they come in all forms and shapes … don’t they?
a love, a first love, a sickness, a tragic accident that set you back ..
a  fear, a hesitation, peer pressure, wrong relationships, social and personal.
.. 
this is why, sometimes, those outside of our box can see things we don’t… and they may just, save a part of our life.
Keep some time saved, to listen, to step back, too really “see” if you have dissolved yourself in what you are doing every day as part of your routine,
or
if you are still aware whether you are h a p p y or not ..
Have a wonderful one my people 🎈🎈
PS:
This post was inspired by the story of a colleague of mine, Riwa.
To be honest, I plan to talk to her today .. it’s just that she’s 25-26 and i feel she has entangled herself in this long-distance relationship..
Look, i may not know anything about it or what it is and i surely know nothing about the support and love they are to each other..
but, what i do know, is what i see and feel.
I feel she’s just giving up too much, that she’s forgetting how to live, how to be 26, how to meet other people, how to take initiative and converse with people ..
She has so much energy, and part of it, in my opinion, with the little that i know, truly believes there is so much more for her to be Happy, if
she gives herself the chance to just
chase what she wants,
if she stops for a second, and count, in the past week, how many htings has she done FOR HERSELF and HER only?
Again, as i always say, i may not be everyone’s cup of tea..
and my views are only how i see them, with the limited info i sometimes have on issues.
But i have a heart,
that just cannot see someone sad or under-living their life.. because my accident threw me deep in a pit i thought i’d never come out of …
but by prioritizing MYSELF ad only me, i made it, and i made it through OTHERS  around me my people,
once i loved myself, and took care of ME, the others fell right into my life to help me on my enlightenment journey.
since, i knew what i wanted from life, what to chase and how not to miss one chance of being alive.
For after all my people,
i may not have been here today, with you, and not have met more than 150 people i now have on my Good Day chain … had i not survived.
But i am here,
i am happy
with my work
with my dreams
with my platform
with my family
with my relationships
i definitely do not have or lead a perfect life,
you know why i will never either?
because perfection does not exist except in our minds.
a happy life is a life where you can be all that you were created to be, the person in you, to others. 
It;s not in material things, these go and come
Life: is about making others feel something .. that only You can make them feel.
And when they feel, they never forget you. They forget your words and maybe even actions, but a feeling ..
Have you ever forgotten how it felt to love someone so dearly? I haven’t..
I was given a second chance at life …
and by constantly taking undertakings that take me out of my comfort zone,
i really,
truly, am meeting a new tribe every time and i make it my own, and we end up a big family who shares love, care, and motivation to each other.
My people,
it’s all in YOU. the key is YOU.
Take care of you, put You first,
and watch the pieces of the puzzle fly to fall into place, in your big puzzle called L I  F E .
I love you, truly,
i miss you
Joy
Aug. 5, 2017
self love

Want to Stop Hurting? Let’s :)

People around me have been hurting .. It made me genuinely sad..
and I felt responsible, i need/ed to do something.
I exist in this world, like you, for bigger reasons, for a greater purpose:
to be whoever i was created to Be and get better at it well because.. i was created to do what i do the way i do it, not the same way others do it..
I am sure you may be, or people in your circle are hurting..?
In my circle, particularly in this period, not 1 or 2 this past week that i knew of .. like Alara .. Sneha.. Sarah ..
[Add in the names of your cherished one’s here],
but several people were hurting. and I was compelled to share a dose of
love,
care,
compassion,
kindness,
support .. 
in my daily chain of kindness started two years ago and now including 102 people!!
and then, sharing things here with you, my precious ones, my world but you get an extended version, well because you have been so generous in your words, comments, and likes, you have been “life” – generous and i am forever grateful to you.
💪
🌸
This today my people, goes out to a friend of mine in India..
who hasn’t been doing so well; because we all fall there, don’t we?
Into that pit…? 
But i got a sign of life from them and she reminded me actually that:
We must let things go, and there’s a catch:

When u let it go, it soon turns into your biggest strength: that is,  your story..

 A story u can tell those u choose to tell for the rest of ur life and move people you meet on your way 🙂
Also, ive been to condolences this week…and something happened, something big and magical.
I met a total stranger as i consoled my friend/colleague Sandra standing next to her.
And the young stranger [Celine, as i later was compelled to meet legitimately as i insisted on talking to her one on one;
there was something that pushed me to just STOP and talk to her, dig further..for what turned out to be a most beautiful human connection with someone who for a minute was a complete stranger, and in a minute, became someone unforgettable in my eyes and hers.]
she stared at me for a minute or two, looked at me with eyes that were at once:
sad and full of amazement, of disbelief, of trust;
eyes that wondered how on earth i captured her attention and heart.. to the extent that i made her feel something different than the pain she was feeling  at that moment on that cursed day, when she had to stand there, among so many people, and hold back tears, to say goodbye to her grandmother …
She later admitted, she sensed , “a positive energy” as i passed to share my words and condolences with Sandra..
I cannot explain it, what when Celine and I shared when our eyes locked, as i spoke out my words to Sandra and indirectly to Celine who was standing right next to her..
But it was real my people. It was so magical, a beautiful moment i never experienced before.
I felt .. like i lit her world, even for a fraction of a second, amid her sorrow, tears, and her “pit” .. truly, when you feel you have done that, you feel..
You connected to another human, to a soul that was so in need and in search of some sort of communication or a connection, to let itself outside the shell,
to share pain, concerns, sadness, grief, but all wrapped with the love to the person taken away from her.

My people, when you adjust your attitude, every morning, every hour, every minute of anger or anxiety or depression, 

People around you feel it, 

You connect,

And by sharing this with them, your adjustment,  u feel stronger, empowered, through them. 
#loveyourlife 

You are left with what u exactly need to make it in this life, every time, even if u had to start over, countless times.

#pickyourselfUP and get going:) why tomorrow not today?
🌈
All my love, truly,
Joy
It’s the little things that count, in every aspect of life.”
July , 22, 2017 at 11.23pm

A Visitor, Not a Permanent Resident: Please, Light Up

“There will be times when your soul seems nothing but tired and your mind tries to pull you back into the darkness you have fought so diligently to be free of.

It is normal, and it is okay.

Being genuinely happy and at peace does not mean being in a consistent state of elation.

Don’t beat yourself up because you don’t wake up with a radiating smile every single day.

Understand that being vulnerable to negative emotions is a part of being human, and it in no way makes you weak or pathetic .

Continue to be patient and kind with yourself ,

Continue to fight through those draining moments and do not allow them to persist longer than they should.

You are in complete control;

sadness is simply a visitor within your mental space, not a permanent resident.

Chat with it, understand it, master it, and most importantly, know when to say goodbye.

You will make up the next morning and everything will make sense. It will all be wonderful. Believe that!”

I read this a while back my beautiful people. I honestly can’t remember when , where, who, or how, but it came up back today and i felt a lot of us out there need it. Truly🌈.

I have a new undertaking i’m dying to tell you about, my people.

It is literally changing my life, my every single day.

And so, telling you about it, i am sure you can relate it to your lives. Here’s a sneak peak (foto), stay tuned for more i promise in a new post for just “us time”.

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All my love,

PS: Be happy, but let yourself be sad too ..because sadness, well, it brings people TogetheR in its own way, by revealing vulnerabilty, humility (tears), emotion, affection, care, love …

Joy ♥️

Nobody Trusts? Reversed Living Metrics

I miss you my people. I mean it.

My day’s lesson:

The worst case scenario is that no one trusts […] everybody is suspicious“,  [if/when you are kind and selfless]

#reversed #metrics
Today, it’s called #human #development ? Loved the vid, had to share.

 

#kindness helps you live multiple lives, instead of one, which is basically only yours.

With kindness, you get a piece of everyone’s lives.

Don’t you be scared to be “human”, the world is upside down, not you for being the way you are, being a “human” i.e. a compassionate.

 

I miss you my people. And I mean it because ..

I have been tied up with work commitments, leaving me to arrive home late, like you probably, with eyes too tired to open, let alone to look at a screen even if it’s for the one thing i love MOST: talking to you here, instead of to myself or overthinking on my own.

I hope you feel the same, cause this is our no judgment space, as always.

I think of you here,  often, and of my not being here every day, especially  to legit-ly meet you my new, recent followers and those who have met me through my beautiful new blogging friend Alara Karis:) and catch up with you my beautiful, most unique friends I’ve had in this life, really.

Never thought blogging would help me meet people and get to know them the way i do today and the way we make each other feel through our likes and/or comments.

This platform is by far the most generous: never failing to provide me (and you i hope) support, discretely or explicitly or both at once. It never failed to make me feel safe in my sharing, in listening, reading my thoughts,, giving,  generously time among other things, and never failed in helping me find at least one blogger, “like-r” or comment-or who understood exactly where i was coming from..

All my love,

Joy

June 14, 2017; 10.13pm

Today, You Have: Today

Hello my people:):)

it’s 6.39am here and If i am delayed for 3 extra minutes, i may end up late to work; nonetheless, i have so much to tell you, but for time-constraint, i’m just going to share 1 of a gazillion beautiful things i have to tell this week.

Hope it makes your day, every day, really, cause each one of you deserves the best, and to be at their best, for you first and for all those around you.

#truth

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May your every today be your favourite day 🙂
Be ALL THERE,
those in your daily lives need you to just be all there, today,
Even if you not being here all day secures better plans for your future with those others.
That future, you can change, but that today, has already passed 😉
All my love,
Joy
June 7, 2017

Never Let Them, Ever

Hello my people! I m i s s you.
Sharing this message today which I shared with my daily Good Day People email thread, which is basically a thread i started 2 years ago when i was in the UK, post-accident and i felt useless; yet, i  wanted to do sthg to others that could help them while i’m in recovery.. 🙂
A little kindness never hurts, right ? Life motto:)

😎

If you’ve ever thought:

i can be this, pass that, do that, be there, earn this and climb and see myself there ...
Don’t you ever let this moment of thought pass just like this.
because just like you said this that day, eve, that afternoon in that workshop, or that weekend in that mountain or village,
someone else in the world at the same time even has said the exact same words, but they actually did something about it in the next year, or 2. or 5
And they are there today,
despite people’s disbelief, low confidence, and impatience throughout those years when he/she was building, slowly but steadily, with time on their side.
If your mind can conceive it, then you can be it, just connect the dots with some action day after day and :
p e r s i s t
Everyone of us can be a small mind, it’s a comfort zone,
but those active thoughts are what keep your dreams real and as big as they should be for the life you are meant to live in this world.
Cheers everyone,
all my love,

Joy

May 25, 2017 at 12.07pm (cause it’s a public holiday here today, and i have a report due tomorrow, yet i divert my mini – panic attacks to writing to you cause it soothes me to share things with you, things that matter the Most, like people in our lives 😉