Never Let Them, Ever

Hello my people! I m i s s you.
Sharing this message today which I shared with my daily Good Day People email thread, which is basically a thread i started 2 years ago when i was in the UK, post-accident and i felt useless; yet, i ¬†wanted to do sthg to others that could help them while i’m in recovery.. ūüôā
A little kindness never hurts, right ? Life motto:)

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If you’ve ever thought:

i can be this, pass that, do that, be there, earn this and climb and see myself there ...
Don’t you ever let this moment of thought pass just like this.
because just like you said this that day, eve, that afternoon in that workshop, or that weekend in that mountain or village,
someone else in the world at the same time even has said the exact same words, but they actually did something about it in the next year, or 2. or 5
And they are there today,
despite people’s disbelief, low confidence, and impatience throughout those years when he/she was building, slowly but steadily, with time on their side.
If your mind can conceive it, then you can be it, just connect the dots with some action day after day and :
p e r s i s t
Everyone of us can be a small mind, it’s a comfort zone,
but those active thoughts are what keep your dreams real and as big as they should be for the life you are meant to live in this world.
Cheers everyone,
all my love,

Joy

May 25, 2017 at 12.07pm (cause it’s a public holiday here today, and i have a report due tomorrow, yet i divert my mini – panic attacks to writing to you cause it soothes me to share things with you, things that matter the Most, like people in our lives ūüėČ
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Wake up Call

Hello my people,

I rushed to work early this morning, planning on staying ahead (on top) of any upcoming tasks/meetings/lessons etc., but then,

a short WatsAp message from a very very dear friend and mentor shared in the pic below, shook me up as in really woke me up to what i am/was doing in this life for the past year appprox.

I need you to read this as well, we are more alike than we can ever imagine, so this reminder may be yours as well as mine:

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He was my wake up call, for the upcoming year at least;

the reason today, i will come back to life:

I found my next plan in life, after a long time of ‘settling back home’ and into my new career path, and i have just taken my first ACTION towards it,¬†as we speak.

I was scared of sharing my “plan” in life now, with others, i did only yesterday with my sister, but here i am today, having received my sign/this message..

I am aiming for the USA now, for another Masters and/or PhD in Public Policy, one of the most renowned universities and this here will hold me accountable to you- i need to tell you where I am when i am there. How about that?

This is huge to me at least, BIG. In my head, it’s a NO NO, you’ll never make it- you haven’t the money, the connections, the knowledge even – imagine how much i am doubting myself here!¬†

But now, i am not scared, every human being has a way of getting around things or going where they want to be, even if it’s to the same place i or you want to be.. so be it, I am doing this my way and the world has enough place for the all of Us, YES.

We all have dreams, and secret wishes, and aspirations, ambitions, tons of things we feel we will never reach, not in this life we say, no i can’t, it’s too far-fetched, others won’t let me, i am no genius, why would i make it…¬†

STOP, STOP! STOP these thoughts.

I share my urgent message here with you:

  1. How easy is it for us to dwell on the status quo especially in our professional life? – to me, VERY Easy to be honest, true, personal, current story.

2. How easily do we lose track of what we’re doing, forget the bigger picture, and find all our time, nights in , nights out, our energy, and focus, is being spent, surprisingly willingly, on a place or job or position we know we will not hold forever, or for the number of years or months to come – I have been ‘settling’, thinking I’m doing what i need to do for the past 7 months. I hate that i now realized this, but it’s okay. ¬†IT’S NEVER EVER TOO LATE TO WAKE UP, TO DO THINGS THAT MATTER.

3.¬†Why do we invest so much time on the wrong things and much less on the things that we KNOW¬†will take us to where we want to be, to out utmost potential, to the best that we know we can be? –

the only person standing in front of your dreams, and/or making your current reality or transition rather seem that it is the permanent is YOU. 

yes, i have heard and read this far too many times, but today, i live and breathe it. today, may 23rd 2016 like never before.

I cannot¬†emphasize¬†it more this¬†morning, I needed to “wake up”, to see that what i am doing now, i am grateful for yes indeed i am, but:

it’s a “stepping stone”, and a stepping stone is not supposed to pull me/us down; rather, it’s a step-push-UP for us, to reach for the higher grapes up on the vine.

 

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I went on a beautiful hike yesterday, only me and this nature. Perspective is what i gained, what counts and what does not, what i need to do, take a step back from my routine and then  lean into the actions i need to be the best that i can be Рwhich is ALOT i am that confident.

I love you my people, for always listening, and sharing your thoughts through my good day email chain, or our  email correspondences, face to face, or my social media accounts.

You change my life and make my days, every day. I am thankful, forever.

Truly yours,

Joy.

May 23, 2016; 9am

How to keep our “spark”?

My people, my dearest ones,

A very warm hello to you tonight :))

I’ve been enjoying my no-posting time lately- very much so actually, by simply reading, exploring, and ‘meeting’ amazing, amazing bloggers¬†on here.

I’ve been savoring: spending ¬†my¬†days(nights actually when i most free from life’s¬†have to- s’) and weeks, yup, exploring what each blogger here, each friend is¬†like, what he/she loves, prefers, is passionate about.

I never thought i’d enjoy meeting others as much as i have here lately, as i willingly dedicated more time to do so and decided to sit back and look from the outside for a change;

every¬†1 page, forgive me: PERSON¬†i visit vibes a unique spark, an authentic someone.It’s so beautiful, rewarding.

It feels like the platform is giving back all I am investing in and it’s just beautiful.

This home platform is the only place where i have met as many genuine, authentic people as i had in my life, & no, i am not exaggerating for the sake of my writing-effect..honest.

This sharing goes out to the “worth” and value of each one of us.

Yes, that worth we always tend to ‘self-destruct’, ignore, or underestimate at every challenge or opportunity to allow ourselves, or others, to do¬†so..

 

 

Story behind how i came across this video (if you can spare some time to read-on):

To be honest, as our Spring semester at university comes to an end soon, and as the warm summer weather and beach season begin to unfold and settle  in Lebanon,(pics taken from my life this past week)

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my students for the past week began to look: a little off-focus, lagging on their academic work, attention, focus, and  they have their heads already on the look-out for plane tickets to visit their families/parents in the summer Рunderstandably as tickets now are way more affordable than later in time for a summer trip after final exams are over for them.

So, tonight, I was really looking for a video to open-up my class with tomorrow to¬†introduce our new theme for the week, but as i thought of my demotivated students at this stage of study, I needed¬†a¬†genuine attempt to “win back” my students, make the best of the remaining sessions together , re-engage them and re-connect with them ..

And then¬†this Jay Shetty came up with a video on “success” (a theme i am coincidentally teaching my students in Business decision-making) and how we define it to ourselves, how the world has all began to be all about,

“if you have the money, you have the success[…]”..

If you’ve met me in my previous blog posts, you’ll deduce or read that I’ve joined the “Educator-career path” only 6 months ago now – having moved away from my corporate finance tracks..

And so, as i pursue my finally-unveiled passion, i felt like i began to assess or evaluate my success in teaching by how less time i spend preparing my lectures, or how much i manage/learn to squeeze into 1 session, or even by how many papers i can correct within an hour or a day

I kind of materialized, horribly, this passion I only unveiled a few months ago, and I realised i was slipping into that trap:

True success (at least mine as an Educator) actually resides in how well can i give my students the chance to be better business leaders and established societal leaders, wherever they go in the future, and whichever corporation they join, people they interact with, and country they reside in.

Honestly, i realised the above not¬†only because of Jay’s video, but also 2 weeks earlier, when my week was over, i had delivered all my classes and for some reason, felt like this particular week, me being an Educator truly made me someone who uses the simple power of thought, i.e. sharing my brain with others, to empower them to¬†spark a change.¬†

Have a look into what my brain wrote out to one of my British Mentors that night of April 11, 2016:

 

Then, as this blog calls for growing through others, i was not let down;

a sneak peak of the reply and support i received back follows here, simply because i invested the time, humility, and courage to share my authentic self, as naked-ly:

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The reply brings me to another message i’d love to share with you:

Please,never underestimate what you share with your people, whether your students, your family, your mentors, your superiors or people who work for you and/or are under your authority..

You can just make the day, week, or year of 1 person, 1 human being, by simply and genuinely sharing what’s on your mind.¬†At the end of the day, we are all humans and we connect on that: simply being human, so go for it.

I chose another video to show my students, and chose to share this one on finding our spark here with you tonight, hoping it would remind all of us,

WE CAN DO IT:

THIS LIFE, THIS DIFFICULTY, THIS UPCOMING CHALLENGE, THIS NEW PLAN, TRIP, OR UPHILL FIGHT.

May you have a beautiful rest of the evening and days full of your passions in this life.

Truly yours,

Joy.

April 24, 2016 ; 11.26pm

 

A Secret Ingredient

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Sharing an interesting, recent life mix of: Loneliness, Hope, Reflections, and Love.

Happy Easter my beautiful people;

celebrating or not this holiday, I hope¬†we all had a ‘fair’¬†amount of time: to mend, to take care of ourselves, and to enjoy the things and people we cherish most in our busy, sometimes overwhelming lives.

I am compelled to share one gem to take away tonight:

 

A Movie Recommendation: Unconditional (link below)

Came across this movie by chance tonight. No words can possibly express how it spoke to me, truly. Powerful, beautiful, real; based on a true story of someone who chose, like us on this platform, to share their story, perhaps it may help others:)

 

My Lessons of the Day (if you have the time, please do read-on):

I had met my beautiful friend since high school, E.G. earlier this afternoon. Honestly,¬†I had been procrastinating our catch-up for weeks on end to be very honest, justified horribly by: “i’m too busy/overworked, stressed¬†“etc. you get the idea.

Our exchange … left us both ‘cured’.¬†For real.

Lesson #1:

All it took was the will, the nudge forward to actually meet up, selflessly investing an hour of our time in one another.

Highlight of our catch-up: we brainstormed on new, practical plans to launch in this upcoming month, for a more interesting, enriching life outside of work/other commitments life imposes on us more often than not:

I, Joy, have the expansion of my Blogging learning curve & the self-enjoyment/fulfillment that comes wrapped within those, in the lines of new acts of kindness I can/shall coin for My People (Stay tuned for those!);

while¬†E.G.¬†has a good amount of amusing investigation to discover something she loves to do, for herself, not for anything or¬†anyone else and start it. It’s time for new options on the table of life!

Not by coincidence, this past week was also blessed with the visit of a precious friend E.H.; I did not get the chance to tell him though things I’d also love you, my people, to hear:

Lesson #2:

I urge¬†you to always knock the doors, even when you’re not sure who or what will be on the other end;

1.I began to fall in love with the Bloggers’ community I am exploring online day in, day in!

I would just love it if¬†everyone now ‘meets’ my new friends here on the blogging platforms: Steph and Tea especially :D:D

Beautiful, beautiful people, stories, and moral support.

2.Opening up this Blog and posting on it merely to¬†share my story with “others”¬†who share my cup of tea in life, is the best thing I EVER did in my life so far.

Every new notification on here gives me the chills and every new blogger i discover close to my outlook to life and character gives me reason to celebrate, be thankful, and smile every single day.

3. The¬†“we only truly grow through others” Life Lesson & Self-help tip ‘driving’ this Blog wins yet again:

I wanted to give my students (first through third year undergraduates) a special, professional guest-speaker for their Marketing Modules, so i spread the word genuinely across my humble network of people- no one renowned or hotshot trust me.

Within 6 days, exactly, I was referred to, met, and chatted with my confirmed Speaker Рa hotshot, regional Marketing  Professional in one of the biggest Holdings in the Middle East, R.B.

Hearing my genuine mission with students in my first year as an academic, and sensing¬†my excited intentions to share with¬†our students something ‘practical, memorable and engaging’, he is now willing to share his story, expertise, and knowledge for no return – at a date we assign with our university. I cannot wait to see how we’ll get on with this!

Talk about investing through¬†“others”? What do you think? How else could I have currently grown in my mission as instructor and academic officer of my students at the British School of Business, if not by asking “others”, valuing or ¬†recognizing “others”, genuinely appreciating them, being interested in what drives them, and hearing or learning from “others”in¬†the¬†networks of my people?

ūüôā¬†I rest my case for tonight on this one.

Lesson #3:

In the loneliest times of all, you’re never really alone.¬†Love is the most powerful thing on Earth and I’ve seen what it can do.”

I learned not to ever again underestimate the Love of our “special people” and how much it allows them to understand us.

I learned not to ever again underestimate how much putting the ‘small’ yet crucially-needed effort to see a good friend (you don’t see every day because of ‘life’) over for a Coffee/Tea can do you good and release you from weeks of ‘not-such-a great’ relationship with life.

I learned to always live simply- literally; that is, communicate all grey thoughts or areas you may have because only by honest expression and naked truths, do two people really strengthen and build-on their relationship.

I am sure it was no coincidence at all that, as I felt I could not understand life perfectly these past two weeks, the right people next to me, E.G and E.H. were here for me, when I thought I was the one who should be/is here for them.. but then I realized,

Lesson#4: The Secret Ingredient

Soulmates… ūüôā the blessing I recently understood right.

A true Soulmate¬†is not a perfect fit it seems! It’s more of,¬†a mirror, the person who show you everything that is holding you back,

the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

[…Soulmates]¬†tear down your walls and smack you awake […].

They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

[They] shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions,

break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life[…]“.

 

Always eager to know your thoughts..:)

With all my love,

Joy

March 29, 2016.

 

How to live it: Life

March 19, 2016:

Hello there ūüôā

I¬†didn’t expect i’d have the time to be here right now;

it’s Mother’s Day on Monday March 21 in Lebanon. My Mom and I had planned to spend the day hiking one of the most beautiful towns up North; a Town called Assia, renowned predominantly for being the only authentic maker of pottery tools and utensils in all of Lebanon.

We just came back and I was off for a nap, but found myself here with you people:)

The time we spent…was incredible;

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I couldn’t imagine wanting to spend my Saturday with anyone else, or in any other way.

Other hikers with us in the group perceived us to be sisters and it was most amazing to hear.

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So, I’m passing by our platform here as someone inspiring just sent something my way and i’d love to share it with you;

its your voice again, as we had agreed that it will be here, not just my own words all the time cause i learn from you more than anyone:

 

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“The full quote is by Tony Bennett,¬†‘Slow down. You’re too important. Life teaches you how to live it, if you live long enough.

Life never lets you move on, until you have learned what it is trying to teach you.
Like a good friend, life keeps trying to show you the way ‚ÄĒ keeps trying to show what isn’t working for you and what¬†behaviors¬†need to stop.
When you keep banging your head up against the same destructive scenarios,
life will patiently keep showing¬†you the painful consequences ‚ÄĒ until you get it.
Life will teach you the same lesson time after time after time,
until you finally start to learn.
Life will try to teach you what kind of people are bad for you, and what kind of situations
make you sick and weak, what kind of substances are a no-fly-zone for you, and what kind of existence brings you into bloom.
Life will try to show you what was never meant to be yours, and life will try ‚ÄĒ by any means necessary ‚ÄĒ to teach you
how to look for something else, when it’s time to change.
As we get older, there’s a trust that grows within us about life, ¬†that something out there is trying to teach us SOMETHING¬†Emoji
My heart breaks for all those restless souls who could not live long enough to let life teach them how to live it..
But to all who are confused, lost, and/or in pain right now, my [faith tells me] that you, [like me],
will learn how to listen,
with trust and respect and love, to what your life is trying to teach you.
Your life is your friend. It’s trying to help you.
Slow down.

You’re too important.

Find the teaching hidden in the chaos.¬†“

This was a good reminder to me when it was passed onto me today, especially on this special occasion where i am ever more grateful to have my Mom in my life the way that i do right now.
As long as she lives and she’s here, life is teaching me how to be around her; how to let my existence bloom.¬†A lot more lessons are in store for me, good and bad…but for now, i’m enjoying this lesson, enjoying how to be content in living my life in all the ways that i do.
With all the love from a happy day i am blessed to have spent,
Joy
March 19, 2016; 5:29pm

 

 

 

Losing a friend: how to think

March 13, 2016:

I missed my Good Day Email to you this morning, and I am sorry for making you wait for it till late this evening.
To be very honest, I received devastating news that left me speechless and non-focused, on anything.
I’ll be short:
a very very dear friend of mine, Chady, 29,  passed away last night in a car accident.
I truly can’t push myself to share more right now, but all i wish to ask is for your prayers- in any way You pray.
I may not understand it now, nor his family, but it’s a piece of the puzzle we are yet to understand.
It hurts. a lot. It is surreal, weird, frustrating, but it’s okay.
And i say that very convincing-ly:¬†I have Faith that God knows what he’s doing.
As for each one of you tonight:
a message from the bottom of my sad heart goes out to you, with my beloved, cherished friend at the heart of my lesson:
Please,
express your love,
show your care and excitement,
share your fears, desires, and worries at every chance or moment you get
because we may be here today, but overnight not be.
Just like that… just like that.
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Let everyone know everything about you,
or a lot about what’s going on in your brain, behaviour, intentions, and heart
because YOU¬†are authentic and when you’re not here anymore, someone still here will know who you truly are and how you make them feel
because you shared your true self: sincerely, explicitly, freely;
let go of things, for everyone around you to have a piece of you, the broken and whole you, to have an effect on another being, to inspire, learn, or touch.
You know, the truth is:
I know Chady because he always confides¬†to me, of all people he may see so frequently-physically that is, ¬†I was one of those who got a ‘special’ part of him, that i am sure of.
In¬†all the times when he was broken, struggling to achieve things in this ‘lousy’, tough life we may all sometimes lead- with me being away and/or next to him- I always knew about his thoughts first. Not even his closest friends know how much we use to confide in one another…especially when I was abroad.
And the times when he ‘felt’ broken when we talked were more than i can count; as many as the all of us I bet.
He was not broken though, he¬†just¬†‘felt’ it – the distinction is key; like you and i feel it more often than not, right?
The ironic, sweet bit is that like the name of this blog, Chady always overcame life “through others”, by keeping his close ones close.
He kept in touch, gave so much, invested in people;
he also scolded me so much for not making enough time to write him at times when life carried us away from each other.
He never ever failed to express how i meant to him, how much, or how any one person in his life meant to him.
He never failed to put himself out there, for us others to accept him as he is, or not to.
With all the above, I know he’s happy and will always be exactly where he belongs.
To My people, to every one of you, and to Chady’s family and friends:
If you’re still alive,¬†reading this, playing your sports, writing your work, sculpting your piece, reviewing your accounts, or singing your song in this life;
if I am still alive, and if you have a beating heart,
its because we are meant to be Alive,
meant to be breathing, here, next to our little community, wherever that is or with whomever that includes.
We are meant to go through this particular difficulty, the other, other, and the other one..
Maybe even over and over.
We are meant to have this depression, trauma, these scars in life.
This helplessness.
This bottom-of-the-pit feeling.
This heartache.
This confusion.
This abstractness.
This seemingly- never ending sorrow.
This helplessness or devastation, better yet, maybe even both.
YES.¬†We are meant to as long as we still have a breath to take, we have a life to lead and people to impact, to talk to, to share a¬†smile…
and people to love, to hate, to be there for, to learn from.
Suck it all in, yes…that includes all the bad times because you¬†have this burden but you’ve remained “alive”¬†for a reason.
You must keep searching for this reason throughout all that you do in your life until the time comes and you pass away;
Only then, do you really have the “alibi” to give up;
to let it weigh down on you;
Only when you lose your life and it’s no longer in your hands-physically.
Suck it in because every morning, God does not forget to wake you up for a new morning-rain or sun it’s your new morning and you should care less.
You’re there to meet new people, your everyday colleagues/classmates, new faces¬†on your way to work and uni,
you’re there to see the¬†beauty of that little bird chirping in the parc or on the street leading to your workplace/studio,
there to see that duck in the lake with its little ducklings lining up behind¬†it learning about what dangers to expect in their ‘simple’ life.
It’s about the little details of life.
Please be mindful of them.
Be mindful.
No one, trust me, NO ONE is not broken, or has not been Broken and bent.
Stop pity-ing yourself.
Stop letting yourself fall into despair,
because it drags you down.
Everyone has traumas and problems and trust issues and love-dramas and work-clashes and physical, psychological abuses in their life. Every one. How do i know?
We are more alike than we think and i allow myself to say that because i have had for the past two years more than 70-80 people confide in me and me alone.
So yes, i know the deeper stuff of the above number of people (representative or not you be the judge),¬†but¬†i can tell you what I’ve had and it has told me that we are more alike than we think.
If you feel like you wish you could die of all your troubles right now, or every day,
Well: please think again.
Think again tonight, for me.. for our lovely Chady.
If you were meant to ‘evade’ these hardships, you would have been dead by now, don’t you think?
If your body cannot take it, then it would have biologically shut down one way or another.
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Yet to-date, it did not.
It may have for some other people, but to you, it did not yet, so we need to learn how to celebrate this blessing, together.
Given that has not yet happened, then why do you insist on forcing it to shut down? Why? Think about that, would you please?
As for me, well, i was still refraining from coming all forward to you guys here and on my blog about losing my Chady tonight because i did not know what to think.
I’ve spent all day wiping away random thoughts and a lot of tears, lost as to what or how should i ¬†think, ignoring more and more messages coming in from a certain WhatsAp Group that Chady had created a short while back only because i was too devastated to express myself, let alone hear more of people who like ¬†me, don’t know what to think or how to deal with this.
This same WhatsAp Group, then gave me an idea:
I have you, My People on this Blog, but not being a fan of WatsAp myself, i lacked ways to express things on that WhatsAp Group…
So I used your help, on this platform, to reach out and console all my friends on that Group tonight, by asking them to join our platform, in honour of Chady.
I told them about our platform, our blog, something i have been hesitating to do with everyone because i am still unsure about launching the all of it. But you, My People, give me strength, and tonight, it was Chady’s sign that showed me what i should exactly do.
He gave me strength and the courage to open up, to re-evaluate my standpoint in the face of difficulties;
Chady tonight let me think and learn the following:
Your time is now, do, say, act, express everything to every one.
Go the extra mile because if you do not today, you may not be here to do it tomorrow.
Put in that little effort to express gratitude, love, care, kindness, mindfulness.
Dedicate time to those things, hobbies, and activities that define the authentic You 
because: that is all people will remember when you pass onto the other side. 
Those Chady-things are indeed all I remember tonight, as i finally bring my floating, lost thoughts to a solid closure, hoping it could help others deal with his loss as well.
To you My People, I genuinely have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by sharing how my passed away friend taught me how to think when i lose someone so dear.
Here i am as i am, and those i love and aim to be there for ,will /should understand where i am coming from in this post and all other lessons that touched me through my people.
I’d love to leave you with something I shared once (few months back), when my country was in crisis and¬†friends of mine- religious and not- were deeply touched by (especially N.L);
i am compelled to share it again tonight, hoping it would help touch more people who do not understand so many things in this life, like i don’t tonight, but my loss is actually¬†helping me get there:

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Sincerely yours,
Joy
March 13, 2016; 10.43pm