I have a lot more people to tell you about in my marathon undertaking, especially these 2 weeks!
I had a kinda weird week to be honest, feeling a little off, a little sleepless, and a little swamped or overwhelmed with life, those have-to-dos of life that often overwhelm us till we forget to look at the bigger picture of life, the bigger purpose of why we are here – the people around us.
A piece of my mind tonight, as i cozy up in a newly-discovered little tea place, which i only discovered last week for my new thing,
Colouring 🙂 They say it’s a therapy you know? For me, doing it last Wednesday just calmed me down, it slowed down my whirlwind..of life. Loved it.
Piece of my mind tonight:
Never underestimate your existence in someone’s Life.
It takes 1 word to change someone’s day or perspective, just like it takes 1 person in one’s life to inspire, to help accomplish a work in progress, a path, a project, a dream ..
1 can be a really big number in 1 Life 😉
And here’s an example Why: Valentina
So i joined the marathon and the 542 Team this past July; one thing this really changed drastically in my life, is the use of social media.
I’m not a fan, or wasn’t until this happened.
With our every Sunday long-run, distances become longer but photos taken of us onto the marathon association become more numerous, catching us at every angle and smile!
So, we been posting lots online, which actually multiplied the number of friend requests i received..honestly, because i also encourage lots of members not on our team on those long runs – genuinely because it keeps me going – i practically know everyone by now and it’s been contagious!
Okay so, with this social media – stampede hehe well, i got a friend request from a certain Valentina..
(PS: i usually prefer to respect the privacy of my subjects hence i omit certain details in photos or typing).
For some reason, looking at the friend request aroused my curiosity, partly perhaps because the name was Italian (non-Lebanese) and partly because i felt something was behind this friend request, #cantexplain.
So , I messaged her, asking if we knew each other or if we had met..
She replied with her story that she is also registered in the Beirut Marathon, that she runs, etc..
We had found common grounds across borders, only because of this 1 undertaking i took on this past summer,
which at the time seemed more for personal reasons rather than being there for others; nonetheless, here we were.
We became facebook friends, but now…very good friends is more like it because well, the messages we are exchanging, the sharing of friends we are having as she meets my running buddies and teammates through our photos first and then through adding them on facebook and chatting with them herself ..have just been WOW and #surreal.
Have a look at few thing she shared with me, those things that kick-started a genuine, beautiful friendship:
Valentina is Italian; she has had this dream for so long, and that is:
Visiting Lebanon, the land and country she’s madly in love with, and running the Beirut marathon.
She is no runner, or was not, until this year, as she explains, she went completely “crazy”-determined and planned on making her dream a reality.
She has had challenges, physical ones mostly, as she’s had to re-adjust her eating habits a lot, as well as her watch her nutrition and monitor the intake of carbs, proteins, etc..
Also, she was running alone.
Today, my people, truly it has been beyond beautiful to see her messages, her sharings, her postings, her messages, all of which just make HER and US here see,
You can make a difference in 1’s life, with the littlest to the largest things you help them in.
Our support was only online, minimal, you might add probably useless for a physical-effort which you’d expect to need to complete 28 and 30km.. and more in time.
my whole team, our idea, our runs, our photos, now include her, at heart, until she’s here in October, when we already planned team hikes and outings for her to see the beauty in Lebanon and have memories.
More so, my running buddy, up in the photo, Abbas .. he will surely have a post about him for you to read through, but for now, i must tell you:
this week, he called me over the moon.
I said what’s up, he said,
i am on cloud 9; i am walking in my hometown tonight near the sea when i started thinking how You Joy, how our team, and how Valentina have dropped into my life like in a parachute, like angels who came down just for me, to make me happier and fill my life…”
I was speechless on the end of the line.
He rocked my world. I had rocked his. Together, we also each rocked Valentina’s world. Also, Valentina rocked my world. She made me believe in bonds being formed cross border as genuinely and as beautiully. We know her now more than anything, we really do because as i am discovering, in
#Running, you have only one personality, the Real You and all those who run, are happy, they are truly giving, caring, alert to other’s abilities and needs.
And that’s just been 2 months in all this undertaking.
Cannot wait for more. Yes, runs are getting tougher, but so are our bonds and mental support, truly, has proved to be 70-75% of the run v/s 25-30% for physical readiness and fitness..
I hope this inspires you the way it did me.
Please be safe, you re 1 person, but a whole lot in some one else’s life, your son, daughter’s, either parents’, your friend’s, your teammate’s…
With all my love,
Sept. 16, 2017 at 9.29pm
(going to sleep early tonight for our 5am 26km run tomorrow Sunday!!)
My beautiful people, please meet my Rita on my #542 Beirut Marathon #running Team
We had our first chat or little talk on Thursday as we completed our training.
We had total 70min of running to complete.
Follow your passion, or whatever you think you’ll love, always.
I could soo relate because her story, could have been mine if things had not changed for me the way they did to take me to where i am passionate and happy today.
Rita spent 9 years at Deloitte & Touche as Auditor.
She woke up one day, resigned within a month because she felt stuck.
She didn’t feel she was living or liking what she is SO good at.
People, colleagues..they kept asking, who head-hunted you? Tell us, tell us: you have Deloitte, 9 years …
she said, I am done with corporate life.
It took my life away from me.
No, i don’t regret it, but i wasn’t happy anymore.
I lost part of myself being in corporate, doing what i do and how i do it.
3months out today, she went to London, took a “shoe-making” workshop- yes you read right- and today she seeks employment in it here 🙂
She told me,
yes, i think i have the passion for it, i been inquiring and researching more about it here. I think i’ll love it. I want to work in it.
She wants to teach 🙂 she asked me about my experience about it.
She is so #happy she feels it, really, for a first time since the past 9 years.
More about our beautiful route that day:
We took a different direction than usual to have some uphill as well;
It was our first scenic route:) , reaching the below Raouche rock by sunset!
It was epic, my first time by that route on foot, and first time i see the scenery from up, overlooking the rock, as follows.
We started on the Corniche: photo 1, up to the road overlooking the Raouche Rock: photo 2:)
If you know a little about Lebanon, you’d know it has lots of green and touristic places in the mountains. But in Beirut, the population is big, green fields or parks are not so common. So, doing this route that night, when i met Rita, really met her story exposed me to the most astounding scenery:)
I shared the following message with my people on my other networks..
and the rate and depth of responses i got was dumbfounding.
I’ll share a few at the end so you know what i am really blessed with receiving every single day with people from around the globe.
“People are thirsty..thirsty to build a
r e a l
connection with someone, today more than ever.”
I have surrounded myself with the GREATEST most beautiful people ever, by doing just that..
And they gave me sides of them that are not on display among others kn their life, especially when i started over in the game of people .. 2 years ago after a rough experience:)
People like honesty, value transparency and open books. Dont you?
If you do… then maybe they too, they just have a hard time expressing it:) we’re all different.
When you express yourself, in whichever way(s), it makes you transparent hence, well-understood by the other,
So, youre allowing people to connect. But then , can anyone live, really live their life, without a human connection(s) ?
My favourite response from My people to the above-shared:
From D. in the UK:
“This is just so well said […]. I wish more people valued transparency as opposed to seeing it as a weakness. [Some] cultures pride themselves on being stoic and not showing emotions, which I appreciate is appropriate at times but it’s a very restrictive way of living.
Having said that, I feel that having my emotions out in the open does leave me more vulnerable but now more than ever, I find that people appreciate this more than hiding behind a mask.
#kindness helps you live multiple lives, instead of one, which is basically only yours.
With kindness, you get a piece of everyone’s lives.
Don’t you be scared to be “human”, the world is upside down, not you for being the way you are, being a “human” i.e. a compassionate.
I miss you my people. And I mean it because ..
I have been tied up with work commitments, leaving me to arrive home late, like you probably, with eyes too tired to open, let alone to look at a screen even if it’s for the one thing i love MOST: talking to you here, instead of to myself or overthinking on my own.
I hope you feel the same, cause this is our no judgment space, as always.
I think of you here, often, and of my not being here every day, especially to legit-ly meet you my new, recent followers and those who have met me through my beautiful new blogging friend Alara Karis:) and catch up with you my beautiful, most unique friends I’ve had in this life, really.
Never thought blogging would help me meet people and get to know them the way i do today and the way we make each other feel through our likes and/or comments.
This platform is by far the most generous: never failing to provide me (and you i hope) support, discretely or explicitly or both at once. It never failed to make me feel safe in my sharing, in listening, reading my thoughts,, giving, generously time among other things, and never failed in helping me find at least one blogger, “like-r” or comment-or who understood exactly where i was coming from..
Sharing this message today which I shared with my daily Good Day People email thread, which is basically a thread i started 2 years ago when i was in the UK, post-accident and i felt useless; yet, i wanted to do sthg to others that could help them while i’m in recovery.. 🙂
A little kindness never hurts, right ? Life motto:)
If you’ve ever thought:
i can be this, pass that, do that, be there, earn this and climb and see myself there ...
Don’t you ever let this moment of thought pass just like this.
because just like you said this that day, eve, that afternoon in that workshop, or that weekend in that mountain or village,
someone else in the world at the same time even has said the exact same words, but they actually did something about it in the next year, or 2. or 5
And they are there today,
despite people’s disbelief, low confidence, and impatience throughout those years when he/she was building, slowly but steadily, with time on their side.
If your mind can conceive it, then you can be it, just connect the dots with some action day after day and :
p e r s i s t
Everyone of us can be a small mind, it’s a comfort zone,
but those active thoughts are what keep your dreams real and as big as they should be for the life you are meant to live in this world.
She was a Mariah; a childhood friend. I lost her in grade 6 or 7. We were friends since kindergarten. Today, without knowing, we share a network of people we each met separately through university and workplaces basically. What a small world huh?!
[What about you? Please feel free to type in a relevant name…:) ]
I never thought i would actually talk about this one day … but here i am letting it out cause it has been on my mind, and because I am always truthful in my thoughts to you my people for one simple reason:
I know that deep down, each of us has been there, done that, or dealt with a “moving on” from one phase to another in this life, whether it was a phase or a person.
This has happened such a long time ago when i was like 13 or 14 years old i think, maybe a little younger: I lost my then-called “best friend”, “truly best” friend.
It’s not like i’m traumatized by that, at least not that i’m aware of its effect on me lol, but in the past 2 weeks, she has been popping right in front of me in different places, which got me thinking, and checking out what she’s been up to through social media channels.
We are not friends on fb or on social media, as i recall fb was non-existent when we use to sleep over each other’s etc.
And as it turns out, friends on my platforms have friends who are common friends with her, so it wasn’t such a hard job to find out where she’s been and what she’s been up to.
We go back to kindergarten. We use to hang out with each other all the time. Our parents became friends because we were inseparable . She was really where I would spend most of my time.
She was there when that girl in class was so jealous of me and we use to plot against her haha. She was there when I had my first sense of fashion, and she even got influenced by mine. We also did have that jealousy phase between each other. I use to come tell mom about it and the latter would just sit with me, explain how at our age, we are building our personalities and we do these things, we get jealous, we get irritated at times, but after all, she use to say, you are good friends, that’s what matters most, right?
And i’d just pack up my honest, simple heart, and meet her the next day, hang out as we claimed to our parents we were “studying together”:D
*i smile at the thought of how we’d just hang out and watch teli, or gossip a bit about stuff or what party we’ll be invited to.*
Then, one day out of the blue, been years together, she’s diagnosed with Diabetes. At the time, yes it was treatable and all, but, it was still something that altered your lifestyle, something that would make you think twice about going outdoors to bike or whatever because an injury for a diabetic person is tricky, or dangerous. Not as casual as it is today with all those high-tech, easy to carry, use and measure equipment. Times were different then really on that aspect, even though i am only 27 today, things jump started quite a bit since my teen years.
Back then, it also meant needles, and her responsibility to keep balancing that insulin level, detect hypo-or hyper-glycemia and keep a candy at hand just in cases..I know, no matter what she thought, it was hard on her. I don’t recall us talking about it, or how she dealt with it… for all i know she may have just surpassed it better than i’ll ever know. But, what i seem to remember – which honestly i have no idea why i remember all these details now that i decided to blog about it “shortly”- is that around that same time diabetes came up in her life, we had become a more “open” circle, where more, different friends came into our friendship.. Things were already changing on the friends front at the same time as her diabetes then.
I was feeling uneasy, hurt and cut deep, as now my one on one time, my “own best” friend as we saw it at that age, was preferring to spend more and more time with these new friends. Besides the fact that i was and still am a generous person who invests i others, especially friends, she was everything to me…
but apparently, not so much in hers? She was choosing to spend time with those friends who in my head, did not know her as much as i did. I liked them, but to be completely honest, i kind of knew that we were different, like, i knew, at 13-14 years of age, they were not my tribe, not those i’d entirely click with.
They chased things that did not really tempt me, read or followed news i was not entirely into or even slightly now as i try to recall, but it was fine with me, i could be a good sport and learn a bit more about what interested them.
But god knows how much i tried to play along. I wasn’t annoyed by them, but i just felt they were different. In their hearts, we carried still the same innocence and good up bringing, but in their heads, in our heads:
me and them- things were different, priorities differed, shallowness differed, what we wanted in life differed even at that age… and so, Mariah and I .. we began to drift apart.
It was a slow process, she became more friends with them slowly, then her mom also became friends with their parents who also led quite a different lifestyle than ours at home..
Now, what I draw from that context today is:
Holding a grudge really does nothing but shrink your world in this life you lead.
A few months back, I bumped into her at a beauty salon. I was in a different room, but the corner of my eye caught her. I realised then, i am not someone who carries grudges or who ever aims to carry one against whoever it was.
Since then, look at me, having you people here, my people on my good day email chain, my huge circles here in lebanon to the uk, to canada, south africa, the netherlands.. to around the world where my friend now are.
Life ladies and gents.. leaves no man behind, NO MAN BEHIND:)
Also, Not all people are meant to stay in your life: today i look at her, her circle of friends, her life, and I just don’t feel i belong there:)
It takes time to accept, but it will come, have some faith!
Like, i bet every one of you has a certain person or group of persons who they think they like, or they think ouh wonder what it would feel like to be part of their group, but then, you realise you wouldn’t be wearing shoes you are comfortable in every single day, or every single night you hang out with them.
I’d love to dedicate this blog post to E., whom i had promised to email yet still did not..and for other reasons she told me about;) Hope this post gives you a breath of fresh air by the time i reply to your email legitimately;)