If it Matters to You, then it Matters!

Warmest Hello beautiful people :):)

How are you tonight?

I’m super-excited to tell you about the First speaker hosted as part of my new career as an academic: educator and researcher. By coincidence, I also found out it’s the first Speaker to actually give an intervention in our School.

My First!! And it did not come about to here, tonight, this post on our shared diary, without constant reminders and ups and downs that taught me this over and over again for the past 2 months especially. I share them with you, as always hoping they could inspire or remind you of what matters:

I genuinely believed it mattered to couple my instructing with an experts’ words, practical experience and specific skills developed as¬†they, specialists, work in the field every day.

Around me though,¬†the environment and its forces at work was ‘less enthusiastic’ and more systematic¬†..

I was discouraged, so often, to take the extra mile myself;

Why would I, when i see the majority doing things systematically and the ceiling set for  performance just getting lower and lower and lower..?  ? 

 

My Lesson of the Week:

If something matters to you, it will matter to others, to 1¬†or 100¬†doesn’t make it any ‘less important’;

Don’t shove it off, rush it, underestimate it, or keep it secret fear of being belittled because

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You may just have opened a new door ¬†and offered appreciation and friendship to a complete stranger by doing what you “so-humbly” initiated:

Being in any one work place environment is difficult – ANYwhere in the world, would you agree?

People by nature may get¬†jealous, colleagues may not be compatible, teams or team members may be competing for a promised reward, promotion or hidden agendas, pay may be/is always unfair, clients may sometimes break you or make you, and ethics always finds a way to jeopardize itself in any industry you’re in, deviating you from your own convictions- sometimes.

Many people, some colleagues, friends I asked for advice, email correspondents I inquired on a few things I lack experience in belittled my continuous efforts to create an extra-curricular world to our students at the British School;

a world I thought and still think is crucial to the sustainability of our programme and its distinction, quality of education and experience in our society and region of the world.

Has anyone ever belittled Your contribution, idea(s), or an act of kindness or generosity or friendship.. you extended?

Well here’s my¬†¬†little realization; they probably did not mean to “belittle” it really,¬†it’s just that:

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There is always (or should be) a piece of You that is yours, not for the entire world to know or see, because it makes you who you are deep down. Keeping it there preserves its “authenticity”, as it radiates in the form of a shining light onto others, and that’s how they see it – not by you telling them.

So, non-proponents of this culture belittled – intentionally or not, regardless- my efforts to find, screen, and really “love” a speaker,¬†a qualified one of course, but¬†who also¬†just ‘clicks’ with my genuine drive to develop and engage students/young professionals/future leaders, tie them to the external world slowly, by transferring¬†my passion to share all knowledge and lessons with others.

I was looking for a speaker and professional I could confidently share with my students and know that he/she will “connect” to their attitudes and expectations from ‘undergrad life’, enlightening them, adding something to their lives¬†or circles – no matter how small, but that they would never forget & utilize when they face the challenges life¬†will throw at them soon¬†in the Employability Market.

For months, I felt¬†alone,¬†in my own bubble, questioning and doubting if after all, I must perhaps drop the chase of a good speaker and drop the entire “striving-to-offer my students an ultimate, special exposure”¬†to network, meet the practical aspects of career paths chosen,¬†in a profession they might end up picking.

I had delivered the needed curriculum, fully and impeccably yes, but as the¬†passionate¬†Educator I’m realising I am, I could not let go one idea since the semester began:

I need to offer my students what i did not have in my undergraduate years – a lot less “theory” and a lot more practice, memorable people or roles in life that they will never forget they performed or met real people doing them out in the real world.”

I even left work early on some days for the past months, to attend events and workshops in renowned universities, to really ‘head hunt’ their speakers,¬†if they spoke to me i.e. inspired me. Some did, some felt completely not genuine but commercial or not up for it or out of focus.

This past week, on May 24, 2016, it happened, the All of it, ALL THAT MATTERED to me, actually Mattered to OTHERS and changed their lives, whose?

a) my Students!! 

the way they now look at me and resort to me for career advice and local market news, picking new career tracks since that intervention!! – surreal!

AND

b) my Guest- Speaker !!

It turned out it was his first intervention for university students; he learned loads, HE¬†felt important (and as per Dale Carnegie, Man needs to feel important by nature)¬†knowing that I could only do this through him as my “others” this time.

He now has intervening with students as his asset and is working to get the chance to meet and adopt other students who could really benefit from a direct exposure to a market professional, having heard the feedback i shared when my students came up to me, so grateful of having heard him out and asked their questions .

On another note, my speaker and I each gained a Friend, a¬†like-minded¬†someone to learn from, someone who shares our passion to help others – otherwise he wouldn’t have really agreed to make time for us on his tight schedule would he?

 

My students and I hosted at 11am, for my Introduction to Marketing Class this week, the first eminent Speaker for our British School students.

I am immensely grateful to the engagement, support, and time that this professional, my speaker, D.A.offered and shared.

He is the regional IT and Project Manager Manager at a renowned Coffee Chain; he had started out as a mere salesperson, taking orders, brewing, and preparing coffees 15 years ago, and today he is coining, and leading a massive break through in digital marketing, that will evolve the online marketing and image of the company and the experience it offers to its customers.

 

When such a high-caliber professional insists on texting you (as cropped in the image above for you) his gratefulness and offers to help enrich the lives of your undergraduates he adopted,  does that make your motivation and determination and passion matter? 

My dearest Others,

If it matters to you personally, deeply, then it matters in the life that you lead, doing whatever you do. We’re all connected in ways humans cannot¬†see wholly.

You should go for it, fight for it, and believe that leaning into it will definitely¬† change someone’s life, whether they were in your initial equation or added to it because of something that mattered to You;

we humans are more often than not short-sighted, tend to prefer the short-run half solutions rather than the longer-run ones only because we care about our day-to-day well-being, naturally.

This post is just a little heads-up to keep an eye on the amazing results we reap in the bigger picture that slips our range of sight at times.

Never ever let anyone’s remarks, works, or actions, belittle the “little ideas or Eureka moments” you can see get through and make a difference, because they always DO.

#truestories

Sincerely,

Joy

May 30, 2016 at 12.15 am

 

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Wake up Call

Hello my people,

I rushed to work early this morning, planning on staying ahead (on top) of any upcoming tasks/meetings/lessons etc., but then,

a short WatsAp message from a very very dear friend and mentor shared in the pic below, shook me up as in really woke me up to what i am/was doing in this life for the past year appprox.

I need you to read this as well, we are more alike than we can ever imagine, so this reminder may be yours as well as mine:

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He was my wake up call, for the upcoming year at least;

the reason today, i will come back to life:

I found my next plan in life, after a long time of ‘settling back home’ and into my new career path, and i have just taken my first ACTION towards it,¬†as we speak.

I was scared of sharing my “plan” in life now, with others, i did only yesterday with my sister, but here i am today, having received my sign/this message..

I am aiming for the USA now, for another Masters and/or PhD in Public Policy, one of the most renowned universities and this here will hold me accountable to you- i need to tell you where I am when i am there. How about that?

This is huge to me at least, BIG. In my head, it’s a NO NO, you’ll never make it- you haven’t the money, the connections, the knowledge even – imagine how much i am doubting myself here!¬†

But now, i am not scared, every human being has a way of getting around things or going where they want to be, even if it’s to the same place i or you want to be.. so be it, I am doing this my way and the world has enough place for the all of Us, YES.

We all have dreams, and secret wishes, and aspirations, ambitions, tons of things we feel we will never reach, not in this life we say, no i can’t, it’s too far-fetched, others won’t let me, i am no genius, why would i make it…¬†

STOP, STOP! STOP these thoughts.

I share my urgent message here with you:

  1. How easy is it for us to dwell on the status quo especially in our professional life? – to me, VERY Easy to be honest, true, personal, current story.

2. How easily do we lose track of what we’re doing, forget the bigger picture, and find all our time, nights in , nights out, our energy, and focus, is being spent, surprisingly willingly, on a place or job or position we know we will not hold forever, or for the number of years or months to come – I have been ‘settling’, thinking I’m doing what i need to do for the past 7 months. I hate that i now realized this, but it’s okay. ¬†IT’S NEVER EVER TOO LATE TO WAKE UP, TO DO THINGS THAT MATTER.

3.¬†Why do we invest so much time on the wrong things and much less on the things that we KNOW¬†will take us to where we want to be, to out utmost potential, to the best that we know we can be? –

the only person standing in front of your dreams, and/or making your current reality or transition rather seem that it is the permanent is YOU. 

yes, i have heard and read this far too many times, but today, i live and breathe it. today, may 23rd 2016 like never before.

I cannot¬†emphasize¬†it more this¬†morning, I needed to “wake up”, to see that what i am doing now, i am grateful for yes indeed i am, but:

it’s a “stepping stone”, and a stepping stone is not supposed to pull me/us down; rather, it’s a step-push-UP for us, to reach for the higher grapes up on the vine.

 

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I went on a beautiful hike yesterday, only me and this nature. Perspective is what i gained, what counts and what does not, what i need to do, take a step back from my routine and then  lean into the actions i need to be the best that i can be Рwhich is ALOT i am that confident.

I love you my people, for always listening, and sharing your thoughts through my good day email chain, or our  email correspondences, face to face, or my social media accounts.

You change my life and make my days, every day. I am thankful, forever.

Truly yours,

Joy.

May 23, 2016; 9am

How to know you’re Blessed

Hello there! Couldn’t stay away for too long this time:$

Oh well, truth be told, it’s getting late on my side of the world [as in 1.30 am late), yet i am sleepless for some reason..

Playing a playlist of Zen music in attempts to fall asleep but…too high on life, hehe ūüôā Those who know me know me i.e. in real life would definitely say YES to that (A);

I reckon even My People  would agree too, those who are on my Good Day mailing list

(this last by the way started as a humble chain of kindness, few names on there, yet apparently now turning into a beautiful ‘secret society’ as some of the most genuine friends among¬†My People¬†referred to it¬†it this week:)

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So here i am sat with Fluffy, resorting to you on our beautifully-shared platform, to share a piece of where my mind wanders.

Lesson of the week:

Blessings come in words, actions, thoughts, and/or signs (silent or loud- all the same), we just got to keep an eye for them! Life is beautiful, absolutely beautiful to have a heart beat:))

You know you are blessed, when even before the week is over, even before it has been 7 days since u invested in 1 act of kindness and mindfulness, you are overwhelmed with messages of kindness, appreciation, self-fulfillment… and life opens up, it just lights up

i.e. when you feel so loved simply because you “touched” another life , another.

..even from those people you thought of as: grumpy, irritated, uptight…let alone those already sweet and explicit and straight forward in expressing their emotions in life.

  1. I sent out my usual Good Day Email this morning; that was it today:
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Woke up feeling particularly grateful today, really beautiful feeling:) couldn’t keep it to myself so sharing it with you¬†My People. Let’s have Faith in life and its ways – no matter what i going on right now in ur day, week, or life. There’s always someone watching out for you, in action, prayer, or thought-always..and these do count: I ave reaped their effects and it’s surreal but¬†actually¬†real.¬†

The ripple effect on my people toady in particular, felt special, amazing, in the lines of a powerful, loaded blessing like this:

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We all know how challenging it can get to ditch the bad mood you woke up in, don’t we?

And the below too, partly in Arabic  Рthe official language here in Lebanon:

(last Arabic word = “today”)

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2. In my post yesterday (here), i did tell you how i “invested” in my people..in the smallest of ways this week and the past one;

So have a look at how my week went by, and tell me if they make any one, even the grumpiest person ever, feel good about themselves and propped up, for real, or not:

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(Arabic translation: Thank you from the bottom of my heart; I am completely speechless, Thank you so very much.)

3. I had not added anyone to my Good Day mailing list for months.. ¬†Knowing i have a vow since April 2015 to add 1 person every day, yup, i was frustrated deep down as to why i have no one new on there for a while now. I did not force it though.’coincidentally’- NOT, only a week ago, look what happened:

In the first 3 days of the week only, I had already added: S.G., J.S., J.A, M.A, S.B…& counting and their reactions …. !!!

PS:

Someone very special is finally visiting Lebanon again tomorrow ad i cannot wait to see them! I think that counts as legit driver of insomnia, right?:$;)

My people, my beautiful circle, my strength, and the only ones who keep me going here on this blog and in life:

Time flies,

days pass by,

we may not pass from here again,

let’s spread love, kindness, and

share all we would love to say to someone while we are still at it, this life, this health we now have – even if we think it’s not really a good “health” or “life”..

 

With all my love,

Joy

May 13, 2016 at 1.48am

Quotes of the Day :)

Hello My People,

I’ve¬†missed you. Truly.¬†How have you been?

How is life going for you?¬†I would really love to know, even if a few words down the comment box, cause you’re¬†My People:

the more i reveal myself here to you publicly, the more life is opening up to me ¬†and i believe the same can happen to you.. hence my blog’s name/life motto since my life-changing accident here in December 2014.

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Okay so, before i begin to ramble on with my news like my weird self usually does when i miss you people here:$:) oups did i just say that out loud..:O

I’ll first stay honest to my post’s title and share two¬†quotes I fell in love with today.

[Photos taken by myself, during my 2 group hikes these past 2 weekends to 2 towns: Tannourine and Baalbeck, Lebanon].

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“I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.” ¬†¬†–¬†Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People.

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Beautiful Tannourine – magical scenery

I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement” –¬†Charles Schwab: President of the United States Steel Company, featured in Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People.

 

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I have a lot going on at work, the most excited about are the interventions and speakers i.e. industry professionals I am planning to invite to our university within the month of May 2016 for my first and second year undergrads.

To be honest, it’s almost the end of the semester/lectures, and I had completely pushed away every idea to bring in that first, inspiring Marketing Professional I told you about in my¬†Blog Post “A secret Ingredient – Lesson#2“;

I was just drained, my mind was screaming something that may be too familiar to you too, to all of us:

it’s too late;¬†

it’s very hectic;

no you can’t do it, you’ve never done something like this before;

you don’t have the time to coordinate;¬†

you’ll definitely embarrass yourself;

it won’t work; it’s too rushed;

nobody will show up; 

nobody’s there to¬†help you out;¬†

on and on and on….

Notice the negative energy i was dissipating? familiar?

No wonder I settled for my status quo for weeks now,  & I would still probably be stuck there, as I almost gave up on my little baby project of a speaker for students.

But then:

That negativity… it’s¬†a YOU that is tired, one who needs the sleep, rest, and self-care even though all three feel like the least you have time for or willing to dedicate time for right now.

Well, today, i somehow suppressed all negativity. Why? How?

Call me crazy or an over-interpreter of  facts, perhaps, but I assure you: frequently and recurring-ly now I have noticed that

When I took the time (like i actually did these 2 days and today) to do the tiniest act of kindness, be good to someone else, send the most genuine and spontaneous emails, Facebook messages, initiate the talk, or gestures to people in my circle Рand mind you, I did and got overwhelming replies to all of them;

When I allowed my authentic self to share something kind with those around me;

A new door opened up in MY life. 

It’s like I’m experiencing Karma nonstop … with all Karma being good deeds coming back to you!

This time, it was the door to me offering my students exposure that can change their lives by linking them with industry professionals at such an early career path and age.

I left the office today, having kicked off my work for the day at 3.30 am from home, to a 6.30am at the Costa Coffee Shop near my workplace, where I worked on drafting final assessments and marking others, in parallel to prepping my remaining lectures.¬†One quick thought I’d love to share with you people on this hectic day and week really:

Today, I got a huge sign; a person popped up in my office, and the conversation went in all the ways it shouldn’t have developed, and we ended up chatting for an hour on how to work together.

All the good things so far happened, since the weekend when I invested in others, and continued to do so until today. All those signs are coincidences?

Nope;

My Faith interprets otherwise; that’s just me, but I was/am simply reaping the effect/karma of ¬†humble words and pieces of me shared heartily with my people -new and existing ones.

I promise you, life opens up paths that you never ever see coming your way;

It does that:

Just when I (you) start investing IN my (your) people, finding it in you to give out a little piece of ‘you’ to them…lovingly, intentionally, openly, and as simply;

This weekend has shown me: 

Other Human beings, strangers, professionals, or mundane people, we are all more accessible than ever,

We all just need a little self-nudge forward to reach out to find a common, genuine interest in each other, and to realize we actually get along just fine, even with those we fear the most or judge as the ‘worst’ acquaintances even before investing in them for a few minutes to see what they’re about.

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If I were to type¬†out here and think out loud all the individuals¬†I have met “randomly” these 2 weeks specifically, and who could really support the specific projects I have taken on these past 2 weeks for my students and¬†institution,

you wouldn’t even believe me if I¬†told you how many of¬†those are now “key persons” whose presence and/or insights are¬†needed for¬†my operations and activities upcoming. And, I will tap their knowledge, knowing they will already agree to help me because of my little ‘investing in’ them, when our life paths crossed again.

They are “the one” – all of them appeared at a time when I consciously: remembered, chose, and carried at heart, a strong desire and spontaneity to spread some kindness and authenticity to¬†others, my people.

I hope this makes sense to you as it does to me really, i do because these lessons in bold above shared here are literally changing my life every  single day, not exaggerating.

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Truly yours,

Joy

May 10, 2016; 11.35pm